First of all, I apologize for the delayed post! Our house got hit with a terrible bout of sickness and it seems to have taken me longer than expected to get into my “groove” again. I find the more I have on my plate, the more I struggle to catch up from little lapses in our schedule and routine. I also promised myself that unless my home, family, and church are being cared for as a priority, I have no business spending time blogging. I now finally feel caught up, healthy and organized and so here I am!
This is a follow up to the previous post on why I am choosing homeschooling. In this post, I would like to focus on the factors of influence and the individual personality of a child.
Peer pressure. It gets a bad rap really. Everyone always talks about the negative sides of peer pressure when in fact, peer pressure can actually pressure people into becoming better individuals. When taking peer pressure into account, it is not one of the weightiest reasons for me choosing homeschool, however it certainly is a considering factor. Peer pressure is all around us and try as we might, we can never fully protect our children from its grasps. In the previous post, I expressed my concerns against our government run schools and their policies/ideologies. I am far more concerned about teacher/system pressure on my child than I am about peer pressure. I maintain that you could shelter your child from school and then off you go to church where they are confronted with even worse “peers” than at school (gasp! I know…hard to believe right? But remember, if we are doing our job of fulfilling the great commission in our churches as we are supposed to, our churches will be filled with broken people and families with (gasp again!)…sin. Not that they are to stay that way and remain in sin mind you, but at the end of the day, we are all simply works in progress 🙂 ). So if bad influences abound no matter where you turn, it can only be concluded that you must believe and search out the good influences. This is where its important for me that I make sure that my boys are not simply being sheltered from bad influences (next to impossible), but that I am actively searching out good influences for them. The choice of homeschooling for me is a flexible choice. At the present moment, its what makes the most sense and works with our family, however, I am open to God directing us otherwise and I am also hopeful to start a homeschool co-op program (homeschooling with other local families who are interested). The reality is that although I can’t control my children nor hover over them 24/7, I like the involvement that homeschooling and/or co-op homeschooling allows for me in being an influencer upon my child and also having a little more say not in who their peers are, but how much influence they wield.
2. Individual personality of a child
We all know that each child is unique and special in their own way. Our elder son Miles is very stubborn, independent, but he also is very easily influenced. He tends to pick up traits, phrases, expressions, etc. from other children very easily. He likes to learn at his own pace, does not prefer typical “classroom” environments nor typical classroom group activities. He likes to engage in single projects that are important to him and act independently in gathering information. That’s the good stuff…now for the bad stuff (we all have our up sides and down sides at the end of the day)…Miles tends to be a bit lazy, complacent and lacking in curiosity. Now knowing this as his parent, I love that I can tailor make and adapt a schooling routine, curriculum and philosophy to not only capitalize on his strengths, but teach him to overcome his weaknesses. In our first two months of homeschooling, I have already learned many things about what works when teaching Miles and what doesn’t. I find that many schools today don’t allow for individual learning styles, not to mention the fact that these days, schools are not the best growing environment for boys in particular (Interested in this subject? I have included some good links for reading about this subject below)
With these things in mind, I have weighed the pros and cons, prayed, sought wisdom and come to the conclusion that in order to protect my boys from the influences of government run programs run by a very corrupt government…in order to ensure that my husband and I maintain a strong influence in our boys’ lives….in order to instruct and inspire them in a way that actually teaches them to love to learn, think, and problem solve…in order to protect, encourage, and foster their masculinity…homeschool is our best option.
As I mentioned before, I really did wrestle with this decision, as I (being a lover of all things “school”) loved the idea of sending my children to a school. As I considered and pondered, I read the following quote by Dale Partridge that really helped me define and clarify my thoughts in this decision making process. I’ll close with it…I hope you enjoyed this post…feel free to share thoughts in the comments below!
“Over the years I’ve heard Christian parents enrolling their young children in public school because “They will be a light to their friends” or “We must teach them to be in the world, but not of the world” or “We can’t keep them in a bubble forever”. My response to these folks is this: All of your extrapolated scriptural references to (“be a light” or “be the salt” or “be in the world not of the world…”) were instructions originally written to adults. Jesus nor any of the apostles sent young children out to evangelize or to disciple or to be missionaries or to be the iron in another child’s life. Now, I understand public school may be the only option for some families. However, let me remind you what Jesus said about the leadership of children, “But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a millstone wrapped around his neck and be drowned in the sea.” Public elementary school is not a mission field for your young child. There is an appropriate time and place to reveal this world’s agenda to our children, but it’s not through public schools with transgender philosophies, prayer-free campuses, false scientific teachings, and politically driven ideologies designed to indoctrinate the minds of our 7 year old sons and daughters. And look…there’s nothing easy about finding a safe solution for your child’s education. But one thing that I’ve learned to be true is this: The right thing is almost always the hardest thing.” –Dale Partridge